“My Girlfriend Wants me to stop talking to my ex, what should I do?”
The question ‘Should I stop talking to my ex?’ is a tricky one. There really isn’t a one size fits all answer to this situation. It’s important to know that either option you choose will create challenges for your relationship. It all depends on what you prefer to deal with.
Ultimately, the decision of whether you stop talking to your ex should be yours. A couple things you will need to consider though are;
- Do you still have feelings for your ex?
- Is your ex a threat to your current relationship?
- Do you want your current relationship to work?
If you answer yes to any of these questions, then you need to know that maintaining a relationship with your former lover is a risk to your current relationship. While you two might have a great friendship, it may not be worth risking your current relationship on. Assuming of course that you want things to work out with your new partner.
One thing you want to avoid doing though is to cut off a friendship at the request of your new partner. If they are asking you to because there is a genuine problem, then you should be aware of this already and be trusted to handle it accordingly. If they are asking purely out of insecurity, then satisfying their request will create a dynamic in the relationship that will be hard to recover from. Being in a relationship where you are controlled by or always reacting to your partner’s insecurities is not healthy.
Trust in me
For any relationship to work, trust is vital. It’s also equally important that you truly get to know each other and your desires. If your partner knows you, then they should be able to trust the choices you will make. Which means that they should trust you to end any relationships that threaten your bond without having to be asked.
Should I stop talking to my ex if she flirts a lot? Having a friendship with an ex is completely possible as long as there is open and honest communication across the board. Your ex will need to know what the boundaries are with your friendship. If they are consistently trying to get back with you then you need to recognise that there is no room in your life for that kind of relationship. Why would you want to do that to yourself? You definitely don’t need that additional stress and there is no to keep it isolated. It will eventually seep into your current relationship creating more issues for you.
When Should I Stop Talking to my Ex?
As stated before, this should be your call. You need to take account of where you are in your current relationship and where you want to go. With this in mind, just be honest with yourself about what you value more. If there is uncertainty about how valuable your current relationship is, then you might want to reconsider whether you should be in it at all. Also consider, what’s the worse that can happen if I stop talking to my ex?
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