All things evolve and courting is no different. This should help you get familiar with some of the new dating rules
Do you feel a bit rusty when it comes to wooing a love interest?
Maybe it’s been a few years since you were last in the dating game and you feel a bit rusty. To be fair, it could have only been a few months and you would still couldn’t be blamed for feeling a bit like a fish out of water when it comes to the coping with new dating rules.
Modern culture and lifestyle moves and changes at such a fast rate these days one could only hope that it’s a skilled driver at the wheel. From texting to Facebook statuses, to tweets and the Tinder swipe, it’s tough to know what to pay attention to and where to actually put your energy to get results.
If you are not careful, you make one slight misstep with these fresh courting guidelines with any digital device and you could send an otherwise smooth and happy relationship into a whirlwind of disasters faster than you can even say the word “like”. So how do you get yourself ready for these new changes in the game of love? Here are five little tips that should help you cope with the new dating rules
1. Are you primed for her eyes?
Gone are the days of the shy and unassuming female that will sit back and wait for you to make a move. According to Sex therapist Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First in this new day and age of dating, women are no longer inclined to hide their intentions. This, of course, makes a lot of sense when you look how the world’s attitude towards women has changed. Just as many women are CEOs as their male counterparts, and they have come to value their time just as much as men.
They are more than happy to give you the once over without apology and if they don’t have time for you, they don’t. This does not give you the go-ahead to do the same, however. Here at Better With Flowers, we always believe in being gentlemen so if you do have to check her out, try not to let her notice. If you happen to spot her checking you out though, consider this a green light. This is one aspect of new dating rules where things are actually easier for men.
2. It’s all about the mobile now
It wasn’t too long ago that online was the place to go finding yourself a new love interest and while it might still be effective; the growing trend is in finding love on your handheld device. Gone are the days where you would have to wait for days for a response from one of your matches, which is actually both good and bad news for men.
The good news is that if she is into you, you will know quickly. On the other hand of course, if she doesn’t, well, unfortunately, that Band-Aid will get ripped off pretty fast. Thinking about it though, this may not be a bad thing at all as it saves you from investing time into someone who is not that keen on you. The mobile dating will take some getting used to but it can be fun so is definitely worth a try. Tinder is a good place to start.
3. Are you ready now?
Ok, so this might sound a bit strange but you should keep a fresh set of clothes and a splash of cologne with you whether in the car or at the office so that you can always be ready to go at the drop of a hat.
These days it’s all about instant gratification. People are not prepared to wait for anything, including a date so you should always be prepared for that last-minute contact for dates, change of plans and hangouts.
Sometimes this might mean something, and sometimes they don’t so it’s not always worth reading too much into this. It’s just the way the things happen nowadays so it is not necessarily an indication of interest. Just keep an open mind and have fun with it.
4. You bad mother-shut your mouth!
Depending on how long you have been out of the game, this may come as surprise to you. Women talk dirty! In fact, a lot of women are more versed in dirty talk than men are, so don’t be surprised when she comes out with a little bit of filth.
Even if she hasn’t shown you that side of her personality yet, just keep in mind that it is not nearly as taboo as it once used to be. The other thing to adapt to in terms of new dating rules is talking dirty via text message in what has now been branded as “sexting.”
5. Are we exclusive yet?
Yes, this will usually take the form of a request rather than an expectation after the first date. Women nowadays are more aware of the fact that when it comes to dating, exclusivity must be officially requested. You can generally tell when this is coming as you will get a request for “the talk.” This actually isn’t a new thing; it’s just a thing that has been in place since the beginning of time when it comes to relationships. If you expect exclusivity, you will need to ask for it. If you don’t, all is fair in love and war as they say. Just remember that it works both ways.
When it comes to the new dating rules, technology continues to add to the change of pace of things. In a world where instant gratification is now a normal expectation across many aspects of our culture, this can make courting both exciting and frustrating at the same time if you are not in touch with some of the modern wooing procedures.
Although today’s woman is more empowered and confident in the dating game than she ever has been before, new dating rules or not, you still need to remember be the man in the in the traditional sense. The easiest way to do this is to rely on your common sense and letting the woman be herself. Most importantly, always be a gentleman.