We all know the first date can be stressful. In fact, it can be more stressful than getting down on one knee and proposing but if you know what you’re looking for it would be that much easier.
It’s important to try to relax and bear in mind, it’s only a first date, so there’s nothing invested if it goes wrong. Do everything you can to make yourself feel comfortable going into it and try not to look at it as a “big thing”.
Obviously, you’ll be able to tell if you just don’t feel it, in which case you’re fine to get out of there politely. But if you’re attracted to them and feeling intrigued, try to learn more. Here are six little things to find out on the date, to see if the journey should continue;
1. Do you have a similar sense of humour?
Laughing together is a vitally important part of a relationship. While going to a comedy gig for a first date is a good shortcut to see if you laugh at the same jokes, you can just be your own silly self and see if they find it funny. If they don’t, don’t worry, somebody will.
2. What are your priorities?
Of course, you don’t want to jump into super serious stuff on the first date, but if you have deal breakers, you might as well get them out now so you don’t waste time. For example, do you want children, if it’s a make or break thing for you then you should put feelers out there.
3. What about fun?
It’s not a silly little thing — how you choose to spend your time is important, because it reflects you as a person. You don’t need to have everything in common, but it’s good if there’s an overlap. If their favourite hobbies are bird watching and scuba diving whereas you’re more the Netflix and chill type, it might become a problem.
4. Let’s talk about sex
You don’t need to list out all your exes, but it’s good to get an idea. It is believed that jumping in with difficult questions, including “How many romantic partners have you had?” is a good idea on a first date. It’s good to get a feel— are they a serial monogamist? Just looking for a hookup? It’s important to know. Also, the way they talk about their exes will give you more of an insight into who they are.
5. I’ll be there for you!
Do they have friends? I know, it seems basic, but it happens. If they’re free every day of the week it’s a warning sign, and it’s even worse if they have nothing nice to say about other people. It indicates how they relate to the world and to people. If they can’t seem to get along with anyone, then don’t overlook the fact that they are the common denominator in the equation
6. Are they attached to their phone?
To be fair, you don’t need to learn this so much as it will slap you in the face. If someone can’t get off their phone while they are on a date with you, they’re not worth your time. To be honest, I would be annoyed with it just out on the table. Just take it out and rapidly Whatsapp your friends with emojis while your date is in the bathroom like a normal person.