Feel like you and your partner are slowly drifting apart from love?
It will happen in most if not all relationships. The process of moving away from love creeps up on us and sometimes takes us by surprise. There are so many different factors that can be the root of this such as;
- Being too focussed on a career
- Taking each other for granted
- Feelings of lust towards another
- Lack of communication
Regardless of the reason for the two of you drifting apart, what’s important once you realise it’s happening, is to be completely honest with yourself. Do you still want to be in the relationship? Is it worth the fight? If yes, then it’s time to address the issue.
Be Mindful of Technology
An important step in the two of you finding your way back to love will be communication. I don’t mean communicating via text or email or even talking over the phone. I’m talking about face to face, looking each other deeply in the eyes communication.
First you both need to acknowledge there’s a difference in the relationship and that you both want to begin to repair the bridge between you.
Have a Date Night
The way the world is today, Love is sometimes forced to take a back seat to your career. While we can’t tell you how to live your life, if you want to avoid drifting apart, Love has to become a priority. Like most things, to grow, it will need some attention. If you start with just having one night a week that you dedicate to spending with each other doing something fun that you both can enjoy.
It might be a tall ask, but if you can manage it, try not to take your phones along with you when you go out. This will go a long way in helping you to bond.
Don’t Forget the Flowers
You know how we feel about flowers. They always have a way of conveying a message that much more powerfully. Especially a message of love. Even if you send flowers often, now would be the time to send an extra special bouquet to show that you are not ready to be drifting apart from love.
A Third Wheel
You shouldn’t see counselling as a bad thing. Sometimes if you are not able to make any progress in rebuilding the relationship no matter how hard you try, getting an outside perspective can be extremely useful.
If you have an issue with talking to a stranger about your love life, then find a friend or family member that you both trust. They might help you find your way.
The important thing to know and believe, no matter how far you feel you are drifting apart, as long as there is a spark, love can be reignited.